I’m Still In Love With My Ex – 7 Tips To Handle Being In Love With Your Ex April 2, 2009
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If you’re saying “I’m still in love with my ex,” but you feel like it’s finally over for good, then you need to stop looking on dark side and think positively. There are plenty of relationships that look as if they’re over, but the reality is that people find a way back together.
Before you launch into a full on attempt to win back your love, make sure your relationship is a relationship that should be saved! Too often relationships that should remain dead are revived with dire consequences.
So ask yourself this: “did your relationship involve physical and or emotional abuse?” If the answer is yes you need to accept that this kind of relationship is best left over with. Instead work at restoring any eroded self-esteem and move on.
However, if your relationship was simply a falling out, misunderstanding or maybe a loss of trust then that is completely recoverable even if only one of you wants it, you just have to find the right course.
So You Still Love Your Ex?
Let’s take a look at some of things you should consider if you are still very much drawn to your ex.
1. What’s good about declaring “I still love my ex!” is you no doubt had a really strong relationship with your ex and if you feel that you’re still in love with them, then chances are they feel the same about you.
2. Provided some weeks have past, you should take a moment to call your ex and ask if you can have a talk with them. Don’t make it sound as though you are begging and pleading for the meeting, just make it sound as casual as you can.
3. Arrange for the meeting to take place somewhere neutral where neither of you will be tempted to cause a scene or let your emotions take over. If you are really seriously stating that “I am still in love with my ex” then you will need to take some time to figure out what you are going to say to get them back.
4. You don’t need to take notes, but you need to have it clear in your mind. So be sure to take some time to figure out why you want your ex back. Yes you’re still in love with them and that in itself is a good reason, but try and give your ex tangible reasons why they should take you back.
5. Talk about your dreams and aspirations and explain to them where you see them fitting into those dreams and aspirations, however don’t make the mistake of making your ex the be all and end all of your dreams.
6. Don’t put yourself in a position where if they don’t agree to the reconciliation that your dreams are ruined. You don’t want to come across as needy and fixated, you just want your ex to know that there is a real place for them in your life.
7. You then need to give your ex the space to express themselves and you need to listen to what they say. Do all of that and your declaration that “I’m still in love with ex” should give you a reciprocal answer from your ex.
hi!!! my name is Lisa and i’m 17 years old. My exex boyfriend’s name is Jonathan. Okay… we were couple for like 3 months or 2 months something like that. And here’s story, we went out for 3 days and he dump me cuz he said we don’t kno each other whatever something like that. And we went back together, and we went out for 3 weeks and i dumped him. And he wants to back together again. So, we went back together. And at last year’s Homecoming, i found my number 3 boyfriend named Anthony.
And we were like holding hands, and Jon was like”Is he your boyfriend?” and i said to him”i guess, why? and are u mad at me or are u sad?” and something like that, he said he’s fine. But when i were together with my Anthony, he was like don’t you love me? honey… . And he asked me who i am gonna choose so i choose Anthony. And i dump him for Anthony.
The reason right now, i feel like i’m in still in love with Jon. Because he’s such a sweetie…and sometimes, he says your cute, adorable,so pretty.
Well… i kno that we’re just friends but i Actully feel this way…
Lisa, for the love of all that is good, please ask your English teacher for some extra lessons in spelling and grammar, that was truely painful to read. In my opinion, on/off relationships are rarely healthy and it really doesn’t seem either of you have particularly strong feelings for the other. Just move on.
i think im in love with my ex bf…..im 12 and is name is ryan…..its just SO complicated and im dying we are bestestestestest friends but i cant deal with this and he is going into middle school next year and he said he is going to start up dating again then…i love him with all my heart and feel like i am going to die without him. dont think that this has been for a week, since january and this is may 2010. GOD HELP ME! I LOVE YOU RYAN!
My name is farah im from algeria im18 i feel like im In love with m’y ex boy f who i was with him 3 Years ago im In contact with him In few weeks he has a lot of plblms In thèse days i feel that he Is not In love with me today he send me a MSG hé told me that hes In lové with me but i dnt feel that Its true i dnt know what to do im so comfused
Hello, My name is Jorden and I’m a 17 year old girl. I’m in a very sticky situation right now. A few months ago my school had an dance, and I was intending to go with the love of my life, Tad. But, before I could even ask him, another guy, Aaron, had asked me. I really wanted to know what it would be like to be with someone else. But it tore me up inside not to be near Tad when it was such a romantic evening. I hated myself for that. I dumped Aaron right after the dance, but I was too late.Tad had given up on me and he got a new girlfriend. Brieanna. She is 2 years younger than him..and she’s so much more immature than he is. But honestly I don’t see any spark in their relationship. Like Tad isn’t happy with her. I never see any sparkles in his eyes when he’s with her. I saw that sparkle in his eyes when he was with me. He was happy. And it’s that small fact that gives me hope of being with Tad again. But Tad always feels so comfortable around me, and he always wants to be around me. I don’t wanna break them up because I’m being selfish or anything. I’m Stuck. What should I do?
i’m 17 and i met my ex my first boyfriend freshman year, i hung out with him, at first he was a player but he fell for me first! and he changed for me, come the end of freshman year he asked me out and i said yes…we were together the whole summer and our sophmore year i’ll never forget, it was amazing, but then he started to change, he was an evangelist and we got into disussions of our religions (me being catholic and all) and one day he just ups and says that he didn’t feel a connection with me anymore, and it was a punch in the face, we got through it but later he stared being distant, so i decided it was best that we break up, and he had been thinking that too, so we broke up, i was so mad at him, he said the breakup had nothing to do with another girl, so i thought to myself, why would he say that if i never thought it…but w.e i got over it and we started talking again, 10th grade year finished and he said he was going to another school, so i never saw him again, adn now we’re talking again, but i still love him…and i don’t know if he feels the same…all i’m saying for advice, don’t get hung up on your freshman love…
I am 19 years old and yes you named it ,”still in love with my ex”. Me and him dated for a year.. Throughout the relationship we budded heads alot, we got into a lot of arguments but would make up.. The last argument was the killer, and we had gone out for a year and been separated for two months.. However, our rendezvous nights were amazing when we casually met up.. Finally I had the courage to tell him I still love him, and I want to grow old with him.. I love him, he is my other half..He cried because he still has feelings for me too, he had a lot of doubt if our relationship could work again.. However, I assured him that he was the only one doubting it.. Cause if you love someone you are willing to sacrifice anything to be laying by that person next to you, to be cuddling and holding his hand. We finally agreed to take baby steps and see where it goes… So far so good, but it was just so great to know he still loved me too…I am in love, and I want him to be by my side forever.. I don’t want any man but him. Knowing you love someone is when you can’t be away from them for a day… Or how you miss their cuddles.. And soft sweet nothings that are whispered in your ear.. So yes ladies, if you love him..and you know he has feelings for you too… TELL HIM !!! Cause you will always think of him being the one who got away…
hi my name is melissa.dated dis guy for 2yrs n we broke up becos we were too caught up in our own stuff n didnt hav time fro us. a frend of mine who has had a crush on me since foreever finally had a chance.his been so sweet and all my family loves him.but me,i just think he is sweet and nice.well weve been dating for about 4 months now and he is always there for me no matter wat.he does stuff ma ex never had time to do.i dont ask for much cos its de lil things that means de world to me.but deep down i still love my ex.we talk and chat and all n honestly anytime i see his call comin thru i cant hellp smilin.i still luv him but i dont kno wat to do.i dont want to heart my new bf cos de whole family thinks he is “the one”.am confused.help.i dont want to marry the wrong person end end up cheatin.cos even now am cheatin on my new bf with my ex
Yea i know chic site..bt am in love with my ex too…we broke up 4 no reasn…n all i ave wantd ever since is jst her..pls help=(