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Does My Ex Want Me Back – How To Win The Mind Games March 3, 2009

Are you wondering…”does my ex want me back?” Chances are they do but chances are that they also may just be playing games.

Depending on the length of time you’ve been apart, the natural inclination once the emotion of the break up has died down is for people to start thinking and even missing their ex. Don’t worry, it doesn’t mean you have to fling yourself at their feet and beg them to take you back.

In fact, it’s the complete opposite. The last thing you want to do is charge straight back into the relationship just because they think they want you back. Can you see the point here? Many times, that natural inclination to start missing someone where good memories were created is nothing new but what about the not so good memories?

Do You Want To Be Hurt Again?

T W Jackson who authored The Magic Of making Up has laid out a blueprint in getting your ex back. But he also covers what we mention above. The question of “does my ex want me back” maybe just a passing phase and optimism on your part but you still need to be cautious.

Here are a few tips:

1. Play a little hard to get at first. You don’t want to give them the impression you are a desperate with no prospects and you’ll take anything that comes along. Time to show that ol’ pride here and if they want you then they are going to have to work a little.

2. You’ll need to play hard to get in moderation though because this is what your ex will most likely respond to. If you jump in hard and fast and get back together with them at the first sign of an invitation then you’ll more than likely come across needy and desperate and your ex will most likely be put off by this and start pushing you back again. Can you see the reasoning here?

3. It’s quite likely that the renewed interest has come simply from the fact that you were playing hard to get anyway so make them earn it and keep them curious. This is a powerful attraction factor but as we said earlier, it needs a little moderation. It’s one of the major reasons why many ask the question does my ex want to get back together?

4. Sometimes when an ex shows interest again following a break up however, it is only a game. They may see that you love them, and they may simply be trying to get attention, without actually intending to get you back. So, unless your ex really seems genuinely interested in spending time with you, they may just be passing the time because they have no other prospects on the horizon.